In
our Schools…
Bullying
is an Adult Problem
There Must be
an Attitude of Change
By
Brenda High, Director, Bully Police USA
Contrary to what
many people believe, bullying is an adult problem, not a child’s problem.
Adults are entirely to blame for bullying in our schools because they do
not stop it. Bullies bully because they can, and because they can
get away with it and adults decide when, and who will get away with bullying.
Bullying is not a
“part of growing up” or even “boys will be boys” problem. Bullying
is an adult believing that its “part of growing up” and an adult believing
“that boys will be boys”.
Adults who did not
experience severe bullying may excuse a bully by saying, “Back in my day,
bullying was just something we all had to go through to make us tougher.”
These adults show a lazy or uneducated attitude towards bullying.
The children under their care are living in a risky and unsafe environment
where bullying will be excused and tolerated.
Some others might
say, “Back in my day, bullying wasn’t that bad.” There is some merit
to this belief. Thirty-five years ago, we did not have “classes”
on how to bully, by way of violent television and movies, raunchy comedy,
sexually degrading pornography, violent video games and cyberbullying on
the internet.
We adults need to
change our attitudes about bullying. Whatever is unacceptable behavior
in the adult world is unacceptable behavior in a child’s world. If
an adult were bullied at work, for example, there could be repercussions
for that type of behavior, which may include the bully being fired, disciplined,
or even a lawsuit. In addition, if the bullied worker chooses not
to do anything, they could leave their job and go to work somewhere else.
Under the same conditions, could a bullied child have his or her bully
fired or easily decide to leave school? This has proven to be unlikely.
At some time in our
life, we will all be touched by an act of bullying or the aftereffects
of bullying. Suicide, (“bullycide”), depression, anxiety, Post
Traumatic Stress Disorders, serious emotional and physical illnesses; these
are just some of the things that can be caused from bullying. Bullying
is leaving a wake of victims, (who become bullying survivors), all over
the country. In addition, many of these survivors will suffer the
emotional consequences of bullying all their lives.
Bullying and abuse
in our schools will only be removed from our schools by the combined effort
of many concerned and compassionate individuals, through parental teachings,
social education (inside the classroom) and financial means.
Education is the
key to every successful action we achieve in our individual lives, but
when a group is educated, they gain synergy in a powerful movement.
Communities, teachers, parents and students must build a consistent, planned
program to educate schools and classrooms about the dangers of bullying
because all children deserve to go to school to learn in a peaceful and
safe environment.
Some of the things
we must do as educators and parents are to:
• Have a plan of
action to educate students and communities about bullying
• Select programs
to teach about the consequences of bullying
• Prepare students
to react and take action when they see bullying
• Focus attention
on good behavior – Seize the teaching moments
• Teach that bullying
will not be tolerated
• Be consistent,
persistent and diligent in the resolve to stop bullying
• Teach victims
of bullying that they have the power to empower themselves, and
• Teach bullies
that they have the power to change, thus empowering themselves
I, and Bully Police
USA, challenge all who wish to make a difference, for the one child, or
many children, being bullied, by participating in BULLYING PREVENTION EDUCATION
WEEK, October 17 through 21, 2005.
Only through a colaberative
effort will adults face the problem of bullying and change the attitudes
of those who work and serve our children in our schools.
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