is an Adult Problem
There Must be
an Attitude of Change
Brenda High, Director, Bully Police USA
to what many people believe, bullying is an adult problem, not a child’s
problem. Adults are entirely to blame for bullying in our schools
because they do not stop it. Bullies bully because they can, and
because they can get away with it and adults decide when, and who will
get away with bullying.
is not a “part of growing up” or even “boys will be boys” problem.
Bullying is an adult believing that its “part of growing up” and an adult
believing “that boys will be boys”.
who did not experience severe bullying may excuse a bully by saying, “Back
in my day, bullying was just something we all had to go through to make
us tougher.” These adults show a lazy or uneducated attitude towards
bullying. The children under their care are living in a risky and
unsafe environment where bullying will be excused and tolerated.
others might say, “Back in my day, bullying wasn’t that bad.” There
is some merit to this belief. Thirty-five years ago, we did not have
“classes” on how to bully, by way of violent television and movies, raunchy
comedy, sexually degrading pornography, violent video games and cyberbullying
on the internet.
adults need to change our attitudes about bullying. Whatever is unacceptable
behavior in the adult world is unacceptable behavior in a child’s world.
If an adult were bullied at work, for example, there could be repercussions
for that type of behavior, which may include the bully being fired, disciplined,
or even a lawsuit. In addition, if the bullied worker chooses not
to do anything, they could leave their job and go to work somewhere else.
Under the same conditions, could a bullied child have his or her bully
fired or easily decide to leave school? This has proven to be unlikely.
some time in our life, we will all be touched by an act of bullying or
the aftereffects of bullying. Suicide, (“bullycide”), depression,
anxiety, Post Traumatic Stress Disorders, serious emotional and physical
illnesses; these are just some of the things that can be caused from bullying.
Bullying is leaving a wake of victims, (who become bullying survivors),
all over the country. In addition, many of these survivors will suffer
the emotional consequences of bullying all their lives.
and abuse in our schools will only be removed from our schools by the combined
effort of many concerned and compassionate individuals, through parental
teachings, social education (inside the classroom) and financial means.
is the key to every successful action we achieve in our individual lives,
but when a group is educated, they gain synergy in a powerful movement.
Communities, teachers, parents and students must build a consistent, planned
program to educate schools and classrooms about the dangers of bullying
because all children deserve to go to school to learn in a peaceful and
of the things we must do as educators and parents are to:
Have a plan of action to educate students and communities about bullying
Select programs to teach about the consequences of bullying
Prepare students to react and take action when they see bullying
Focus attention on good behavior – Seize the teaching moments
Teach that bullying will not be tolerated
Be consistent, persistent and diligent in the resolve to stop bullying
Teach victims of bullying that they have the power to empower themselves,
Teach bullies that they have the power to change, thus empowering themselves
and Bully Police USA, challenge all who wish to make a difference, for
the one child, or many children, being bullied, by participating in BULLYING
PREVENTION EDUCATION WEEK, October 17 through 21, 2005.
through a colaberative effort will adults face the problem of bullying
and change the attitudes of those who work and serve our children
in our schools.