Sept. 30 - Michelle says...
"Im 15 years old and last April, my close friend Pia
died of suicide. She was only 14 years old. I don't know why she did it
and probably won't know what was going through her mind that night. ...I
know that suicide is a bad thing and is restricted from my religion, but
sometimes i have the urge to do the same thing as what Pia and your son
did. Pia wasn't never ever sad or mad.. always smiling and making
people feel better ..she was the last person on my list that would ever
even think about committing suicide. But as for me, im not the same as
her. I have many friends, i play varsity golf, and i get good grades.
My parents are the best. It's just that sometimes i want to release
all that pressure and depression that i face everyday. At school,
there is many problems and obstacles you face, not just academics but enemies,
guy/girl problems, and other stuff. I know that i am young and i
have a life ahead of me, but the pain never seems to get out of me and
i can't stand it; it hurts my heart... LITERALLY. ...All these emotions
go through my mind and i end up being depressed. What should i do?" (
It's hard to understand someone who seemed so happy the days before would
want to leave family and friends in such a hurtful manner, but this is
how depression can
kill. Pia had depression and it's like having a cloud over the
mind that keeps common sense out, so they can't think properly. ...You
are a teenager and you are going through a lot of physical and emotional
changes. I can't give you any advise about what to do concerning
the young man you care about except to say that you are 15 and in due time
your grief from loosing him will subside, just as our grief from loosing
Jared has lessened. ...Be sure and read the Meaning
of Life section, it will give you some peace concerning Pia's death
and help you to find your purpose in life.)
Sept. 26 - Jessica says...
"I have been suffering from depression and suicidal
tendencies for a long time now and am on medication, though I don't always
think it's helping. The reason I'm writing is because I am looking
for information I can use during a discussion on suicide I am giving in
three weeks. Do you know of any web sites with information other teens
would be responsive to?
and later... I
hope this question doesn't upset you, but I know there's no easy way to
put it. Why exactly did Jared commit suicide? I just couldn't
stop thinking about your web page you have devoted to him and how someone
who is so devoted to her son who is dead, must have been the most loving mom when he was still alive.
God will bless you greatly for all you have done to inform people on suicide,
and honor your son. I hope when I meet him in Heaven someday, I can be
the first to tell him how great his family is and how great he was.
...He will always be remembered." (Jared was assaulted
inside his Middle School by a bully and never was the same afterwards.)
Sept. 26 - Dawn says...
"...I read your story of Jared it touch me in a way
a story never has. I had to do a report on teen suicide and when
I was on the computer I saw his name and I read your letter. I know
people tell you every day that they are sorry and they hope you feel better
but I know how it feels to lose a loved one. my mom tried to commit suicide
and I cried for weeks she lived through it but know I know how much she
means to me. I don't know what to say to make your life any better because
it is hard to lose someone you love. especially when it is your son.
People tell my grandmother that she should get over her sons death but
no matter what people told her she kept the memories of them. I wish
that your son was still with you I think it is sad that people take their
own lives. ...don't blame it on your self because it is not your
fault. I wish there was some way I could help you and your husband
out. I just wanted to tell you how much of a good job you are doing
in keeping your sons spirit alive and he will always remember him from
Sept. 26 - Timothy says...
"...in a certain way I also know what you've gone through.
About 3 yrs ago my uncle who was right around my age believed that he no
longer had anything to live for. I know that the void in your heart will
never be completely filled and I'm truly sorry if you ever need to talk
to anyone please email me..."
Sept. 26 - Ash says...
"...I would just like to say that suicide is an every
day thing and I have been exposed to it. One of my very best friends was
killed by himself and the thing was there was not a day that went by that
we did not talk about things and honestly I don't think it was suicide
because he was so happy. I think that there was more to it than suicide!" (Yes,
there is usually a lot more to suicide than just deciding to die.
In most cases the cause is from depression.)
Sept. 25 - Samantha (Diamond
Bar California) says...
"I was reading about suicide and looking up things
because I was doing a report on teen suicide... and when I read about Jared,
I thought he was a pretty happy boy. ...I am only 14 years old and this
topic interests me because I feel that so many people that are depressed
can be reached out to. But as I read some stories, I found that people
seemed so happy and excited about their future, but then took their own
life. I feel very bad about Jared and I'm sure that he's happy now and
he's not in anymore pain."
Sept. 18 - Zeia says...
"I am terribly sorry about your loss and as I am just
14 years of age I know how you must feel. Many of my friends have tried
and failed or been talked out of it. I am so sorry that your son was not
able to be one of those people ...If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'll
Sept. 16 - Megan says...
"Hi Ms. High, i found your site about your son, Jared
while i was browsing the net looking up stories about suicide, as soon
as i saw your sons picture and the thought in my mind that he committed
suicide, i started balling. Why would such a normal looking kid ever do
that?! well i guess i sound like a hypocrite because i am having the same
thoughts that i'm sure he did. I want to die right now more than anything,
i tried last year and three nights ago to kill myself by taking a ton of
ibuprofen and motrin ib, but i just passed out and got sick, anyways, my
friends mom told my parents that and they don't even care! they haven't
even talked to me since! how can they do this!?!? Their daughter has
been up in her room in the dark searching her mind for a way to kill herself
while they live their lives like nothings wrong! I just wanna be dead!
off of this earth!!..." (Jared was assaulted inside
his middle school by a bully and was never the same after that. He was
just 13 and 6 days old and if someone had said to us the night before that
Jared would kill himself, we never would of believed it. He didn't
have a violent bone in his body. We didn't know what to call all
the symptoms he had then, but now we know that Jared was having depression.
Megan, those deep feelings of wanting to die that you are having is called
...Most likely your parents don't know what your problem is or how
to respond to what you are going through right now. Please try and
find a time to have a heart to heart with your mom, or the parent you are
able to talk to best and tell them you need their help in getting you through
your depression. You may be surprised to learn that they really do care
about you after all.)
Sept. 12 - Jenny says...
"I have been hospitalized 2 times for suicide attempts
and I feel like attempting again, Who can I talk to?" (Who
helped you decide to go to the hospital the last two times you went?
This is the best person to talk to. Also, find a therapy group with
people your own age that you can meet and talk with once a week and if
you are on medication than always remember to take it every day.
Don't be ashamed that you have depression and need to take medication.
It seems that half the world suffers with depression at some time or other.
My son is diabetic and has to take insulin everyday or he will die.
Having depression can be just as dangerous because of the suicide factor.
Never give up!)
Sept. 12 - Alexa says...
"I found the site of your beloved son, Jared. I was
so surprised that a very beautiful young boy like that would ever do something
so badly it even hurts me so much to hear about it. I've read everything
on your website about him. I'm really glad you did this for him.
I'm only 14. I cried so much when i read it because for so many times I've
always thought about suicidals. ...He seemed like a happy kid I am very
sorry ...A lot of people
from his school had said that he was a very great friend and I just
don't understand why. ...Do you know how I can stop and not think
about suicide. I know i don't want to try it but sometime I cant just stop
but think about it or just fantasy a lot of it. ...I don't know what to
say or do which is why I cant seem to think straight. But just think about
the death of your son, why did he do it?
and later... I just wanna
say thank you very much for sending me the email back even thought I didn't
think you would have done that. I've been through a lot and i try, and
try hard to focus on the people who love me so dearly. I'm still gonna
focus on that, ...I'm scared to die. ...i've realized how people
like Jared could get beat up and go through depression and end up in suicide.
I think Jared's a cutie and I've read all of what his friends have said
about him. ...He's very much like my brother so this is why I am like so
concerned about this whole thing..."
Sept. 12 - The Hurley's say...
"I'm writing you this to tell you we've been through
it. Our 16 yr. old son killed his self. Its the hardest thing we ever been through. i just want to
tell are our prayers are w/ you. God bless your family."
Sept. 10 - Amy says...
"I can't begin to tell you what it is that i need.
I lost my mother to suicide in jan. 98 lately i have been feeling
that she is trying to reach me and guide me to where i need to go to accomplish
this. do you know anything about these feelings? please help
if you have time." (Yes, there is life after death
and my personal belief is that your mother may be watching over you, like
a Guardian Angel. Please read the section called
Meaning of Life about the Eternal Plan God has for you.)
Sept. 7 - comments from the Notice
of Harassment survey...
"when i was in seventh grade (i am now a junior in
college) i was harassed daily by people who had previously been my friends.
i won't go into specifics because it hurts less to think about it now,
but it was the worst time of my life. the memories and hurt followed
me all of my life, and i had considered suicide too numerous of times to
count. eventually i thought i was overcoming it, until i went to
college; my freshman year at school i was raped, and two weeks later i
could no longer deal with life. it didn't seem fair that so many terrible
things kept happening to me- i didn't deserve to feel like this.
i overdosed on about 100 tylenol and ended up being taken to the emergency room.
had i not made it in time (i went about 3 hours after i had taken them)
i would have died. looking back, i know that so many of my problems
began back in school, and it breaks my heart to think that other kids might
be going through those same experiences i was. i didn't include my
school name because i still struggle to leave behind the painful memories
sometimes, but i just wanted to write and tell you that i hope you can
reach as many young people as possible. life is hard and sometimes
bad things happen, but its so much harder after you've already given up."
Sept. 4 - Debby says...
"I was heartfelt with your story. I also lost a son
named Jared to suicide, so of course it caught my eye. It was a year
ago on Labor Day, and he was 18 years old. I miss him terribly. Thanks
Sept. 2 - Rich says...
"I have known 2 people who have committed suicide and
it is a tough thing to deal with. I can't imagine having to go through
it from a parents point of view. God bless you and your family. Depression
is something most people don't understand. I didn't until I rushed my wife
to the hospital and she was diagnosed with depression after both our children
were born. How old was Jared when he did this and what were the circumstances
if you don't mind me asking. My heart goes out to you. You did a great
job on this page. I have a wife and two children ages 6 and 10." (Jared
was 13 and 6 days old. His suicide was triggered
by an assault inside his Middle School by a bully.)