Jared High was 12 years old when
older students bullied him in his middle school. The bullying came
to a head when a well known bully assaulted Jared inside his middle school
gym. Because of the bullying and the assault, Jared began to show
signs of depression, which included lack of sleep and emotional outbursts.
On the morning of September 29,
1998, just six days after his 13th birthday, Jared called his father at
work to say good-bye. While on the phone with him, Jared shot himself,
As a healing project, Brenda
began to write Jared's story, which is now published as www.jaredstory.com.
Since 1999, JaredStory.com has attracted over three million visitors looking
for information on bullying, depression, suicide and needing healing from
the loss of a loved one.
Brenda has now become a passionate
crusader, a mom on a mission to stop school bullying and peer abuse.
It is not uncommon to see Brenda doing email or on the phone talking about
bullying as well as advising parents, students, teachers, state and federal
lawmakers, media and community members about the emotional and physical
dangers of bullying, which can lead to bullycide, (a suicide attributed
Producers from The Oprah Show, FOX
News, Good Morning America, CNN, The John Walsh Show, The Larry Elders
Show, Video Production Companies, Inside Edition, Jenny Jones Show, Black
Entertainment Television, NHK Japan Broadcasting Corporation and News Documentaries,
to name a few, have consulted and/or interviewed Brenda concerning bullying,
depression, suicide, bullycide and how to heal from life changing traumas.
Jared's story has been told on the
radio, in magazines, including California's Beach Cities Health District,
Arizona Parenting, The American Association of Suicidology, Desert Paradise,
in numerous news articles, and compiled a book, "Bullycide in America:
Moms speak out about the bullying/suicide connection". Brenda
has also published Internet Short Stories about JaredStory.com on several
websites as well as publishing over a dozen bullying prevention e-books
that can be found on www.BullyPolice.com.
Brenda has designed
websites that deal with bullying and suicide issues, including:
which deals with bullying, depression, suicide and other issues.
JaredStory is very popular with teens who are looking for direction and
advice for living as well as media research, as example, The Dr Phil Show,
who found two quests to talk on bullying and suicide.
- Reports and grades States on their anti bullying laws. Bully Police
USA posts current anti bullying laws, research, news, and support information
for parents and/or anti bullying activists who are dealing with bullying
- The synopsis of her book, that tells the stories
of teens who have died by "bullycide", as told by their moms.
- Ordering website for Bullying Prevention E-Books
Getting anti bullying laws
Having been involved in politics
for over 30 years, Brenda leads by example. Currently, her specialty is working
to get anti bullying laws passed or revised. She is proud of contributing
to the passage of the Washington State Anti Bullying Law,
as well as influencing passage of a law in Oklahoma, Arizona and Vermont.
A major triumph was the passage of Idaho's law, "Jared's
Law", named after her son Jared, in
2006. Jared was buried in the small Idaho town of Ashton.
Brenda is aggressively working with lawmakers and anti bullying
activists in several states to get more common sense anti bullying laws
updated...however long it takes.
As the Co-Director and Founder of
the national organization, Bully Police
USA, Inc., Brenda has written, “The
MORE Perfect Anti Bullying Law,” which is an excellent model for lawmakers
to follow when they write their State anti bullying laws. She teaches
the importance of anti bullying laws, and how to lobby, in teleconferences
to educators, media, program directors and parents, many who have children
suffering from bullying.
Books & E-Books
Bullycide in America:
Moms Speak Out About the
"Our stories, mine and six others, are tragic.
All of us had a very hard time writing our stories, not only because we
are inexperienced writers, but because its hard to express the emotion
that comes from loosing a child by suicide, or by bullycide as we now call
it. Some in our group lost our children years ago, and others, less
than two years ago but we hope that by writing our stories we can share
some lessons we have learned as well as some warnings that will prevent
the same tragedies in the lives of others. To read an online synopsis
of our book go to www.bullycide.org."
The Bully Police E-book series
encompass over 10 years worth of research as well as contributing articles
from PhD's, M.S., Esq., and experts in the field of bullying. The
writers who contributed to these e-books have one thing in common - they
want to help kids who are being bullied as well as the kids who are the
We have come together for the common
good of ALL of our children. To choose the FREE e-book that is best
for you if you go to www.BullyPolice.com.
Bullycide in America: Speaking
Out About the Bullying/Suicide Connection
Work on this second book has begun and is expected to be
finished before the end of 2017. It
will be a comprehensive work with over 20 bullycide stories and Q & A with experts on the subject
of both bullying and suicide.
A philosophy to live by
Brenda lives her philosophy, which
is; a woman filled with love is not content with blessing her family alone,
but is anxious to bless the whole human race.
Brenda lives in Pasco Washington with her
husband Bill. They have three grown (married) children, Sonja, Jacob and
Tara, and five grandsons. She has a Bachelors Degree
in Psychology from B.Y.U.