.. .Suicide  Bullying  depression


BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!
 

Emails from people who have "been there, done that" - they have lost someone to suicide, have thought of, or are

thinking about suicide. Emails from people enduring, or have endured bullying or have suffered from depression.


Other people's stories...  JANUARY - FEBRUARY 2000

Feb. 29, 2000 - Deanna says...
"When my son was 10 years old.  I had sent him to his room for a time out and when I found him He had a shoe string tied around his neck.  I was terrified and glad I stopped him.  We have been to counseling on a couple of occasions.  So I feel so much empathy for what you ... have been through.  In the last year I've heard of at least 3 suicides... We recently moved... He (my son) was the "new kid" (at school) and some of the kids were horrible to him. He asked to me to take him back to a professional counselor again. I could not ignore that. We transferred (my son) out of (his school) and Back to (his old school). He is a lot happier there.  But no school is perfect.  ...I want to see a change in the way Schools deal with Harassment of Any kind.  I will do whatever I can to help you and others to make this change.  Our children have a right to an education without having to deal with harassment from their peers. If you have time please feel free to email me. Let me know if I can help."

Feb. 29, 2000 - Connie says...

"Hi My son committed suicide Feb. 25th . He missed his children so much and did not see any hope because he did not know where they lived. ...I really have a hard time every morning I wake up and wish I just had a bad dream. Then it hits me so hard. I have a son 25 and he's 700 miles away . I know he is not as troubled as Jason was but I am not there for him. I am so sorry for you I know the loss you also feel. Thank you for your time."

Feb. 28, 2000 - Christi says...

"I recently read the story of Jared and let me tell you it hits home. On March 1 it will be one year that I lost my child hood best friend, and although it was hard to get over I have done almost the same things as you. I am in a community college and I have recently written about my experience with suicide or losing a friend to suicide.  This was probably one of the hardest things to ever hear on the morning announcements that my friend died, the biggest shock was when I found out how he died. I know all the information I need to know but there's not a day that goes by that I cant answer a question that has run through my head since day one, or a day doesn't go by that I don't think about him. Your story was great and I am so glad you wrote this and It hurts I know. My prayers go out to those families and yours. Good Luck to you in the future and I'd love to keep in touch with you over the years."

Feb. 28, 2000 - Mat says...

What an amazing tribute to your son JaredStory is. Enough to make one cry, but bittersweet. The loss that prompted it lurks like a stone in the pit of one's stomach, yet you've created such a positive and wonderful website.  ...We know so little about childhood suicide.... I think so many adults belittle the emotions of children, but I think that they're the truest emotions of all because they're uncluttered by the distractions and fluff of our lives. ...I commend you on the joyful focus of your site. You have managed to celebrate Jared's life, without enmeshing the rest of us in the lonely misery of his death. Don't think we don't feel the loss anyway. We do. I see your lovely boy with his cats and I hug my own little step-boys (2, 5 and 6). I have to hide my face so they won't see the tears, and I daren't try to speak because I love them so much, and it makes me so scared that anything will ever happen to them. I know I'm hugging them too hard, but part of me is hugging your little boy ...It's made me treasure my children (3 boys, 3 girls and a 16 year old adoptee) so much. I must tell them every day how precious they are to me. ...I want them to grow up strong, so that life never overwhelms them. I want them to know that there's NOTHING they could ever do that would make me not be there for them. I want them to know that their imperfections and mistakes are just inconsequential sand-grains on the glorious beach of their lives. ...Your site so beautifully expresses all the subtle and myriad wonders of Jared's boyhood. He was obviously a lively, vibrant child. He certainly appears to epitomize all that's good and wholesome and innocent about boyhood.  ...I'd like to offer you and your family my very deepest love. Hug. May you find some moments of peace. BTW, please tell Sonja that her laughter page is brilliant. I definitely agree, with Jack Handy; we should declare war on Jupiter now... just in case! ;) I leave you now, sad for your immeasurable loss; for the way that the entire planet has been diminished a little by sweet Jared's passing. Yet your site offers hope and joy too. Good job."

Feb. 25, 2000 - Lynne says...

"I went to the new part of the site--it looks great. The suggestions were so practical, so creative. Some of them really touched me. My dad has had two strokes in the past nine months, the most recent in January. He is a preacher and a carpenter, only 65 years old. ...The last stroke has left him unable to work he told me this past weekend that it was an effort to get out of his chair. He has made it clear to all of us that he doesn't expect to be here much longer, has begun deeding property to us, and getting his affairs in order. He has selected the next pastor for the church he started and has started telling my mother how he wants his memorial service to go. It is so hard for me to imagine not having him around, he has always been the biggest man in my life: ...I was Daddy's little girl. As I have talked with my brother and sisters about the situation, I can't help but cry. At least I have been given some warning, though. ...I am blessed to have had the chance to say to him the things I want and need to say--and I did, last weekend. Who knows, he may be around for a very long time yet (one can always hope!) but regardless, it has been important for me to be sure that he knows how I feel about him. Now I feel a lot more peaceful about the whole situation."

Feb. 24, 2000 - Travis says...

"Hello. I'm a friend of Sonja's, ...Gregg told me about this page and I was doing a school report about the subject and your page about Jared was very inspirational. Thanks for all you effort."

Feb. 15, 2000 - J.D. says...

"Thank you for the suggestions.  My brother loved to play golf.  We worked together at the golf course during our summer breaks from school.  I am going to plant an oak tree at the local course.  Thank again for the web site.  It has been almost two months now and things are beginning to get a little better."

Feb. 14, 2000 - Tammy says...

"Hello my name is Tammy. I lost my grandmother 7 months ago. she took allot of pills. I think your web site shows a lot of courage and love. It was put together very well. Good luck..."

Feb. 10, 2000 - Ilene says...

"I decided to snoop a little and see what yours looked like.  It's wonderful!  I'm sure Jared would be very proud of what you've done.  I hope you're having a good year, so far, and that it will only get better."

Feb. 5, 2000 - Ginger says...

"Hi there maybe I'm a bit lost... I was reading your web site (which I must say was exquisitely done and beautifully written) but I didn't see anything about your son's death. How it happened, or why? (read "You never know" or go to www.JaredStory.com/email_questions.html) for some understanding on 'why' Jared took his life.) It' sounds like he was a wonderful loving boy. I can't even remember how I got to this web site. Any information you would have to enlighten me is greatly appreciated, if not your privacy is respected. Again, what a well written tactful web site, and I am sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family."

Jan. 30, 2000 - Sherry says...

"I wanted to let you know that your site is very special.  I am so very sorry about Jared (he was very handsome),- I have a son his age.  I lost my baby brother to suicide last August and it has been very hard coping, he was 35. Your website helps. Thanks again."

Jan. 16, 2000 - Gina says...

"Hello. I know I don't know you, and I don't really know why i'm writing this, but I was just reading your page.  I lost one of my best friends, someone who I was very much in love with, last May.  His name was Jared too.  He was the best person I've ever met in my life.  He did not commit suicide, he died in a tragic freak accident, but the way he left doesn't nearly matter as much as all the great things he did while he was here.  I miss him so much everyday. I didn't realize I could cry this much.  It has been almost 8 months at the end of January, and it still feels like it just happened yesterday.  I still feel that pain.  It also seems like I was just with him,  seeing his red hair and wonderful smile.  He had this wonderful way of making you feel so special just by looking at you.  Anyways,  I often find myself pressing keyword: Jared, just to see if anyone has started a page about him.  That is how I found your page.  I wanted to write a comment on how to deal with grief.  I was scanning through profiles and found a girl who lives far from me, who had written in loving memory of one of her friends.  Out of the blue I wrote her (kinda what im doing now.)  and we started talking about our friends who are in heaven now.  We have made a very good connection and help each other through the rough times when we get sad.  Its amazing how total strangers can help you out.  Being a teenager and losing someone you have known for 12 years is extremely tough to deal with, but my online friend helps.  It might sound strange, but it helps me grieve and i thought you could add it to your list.  My Jared was only 16 when he died.    I'm sure he's with your Jared now.  thanks for giving me the opportunity to write this.  I hope it helps someone out.  Please write back so i can know you got this.  Thanks" (I'll be adding your suggestion soon - thanks)

Jan. 15, 2000 - Chris says...

"Hello, my name is Chris Hansen I am the Founder/Program coordinator for Helping Each-other And Reassuring Teens (HEART) a pro-active teen suicide prevention program based out of Lincoln Nebraska.  We are holding a dinner/silent auction on January 23 to raise funding for the organization.  One of our volunteers has come up with an excellent idea to make those attending our dinner think twice about how serious this subject really is. We have put much thought into it and have spoken with the Emcee's from the Yellow ribbon program and they seem to think it is a wonderful idea.  what we are planing on doing is have a large paper cut out of a yellow heart at the entrance to our dinner with pictures of teens who have committed suicide, including a paragraph or so about each teen.  We feel with actual faces there it will make a bold statement.  In order for this project to be a success we are asking for your help.  We realize this is very short notice but if you could send us a picture and a little bit about your lost loved one we can make this a success and prevent other suicides.  If you are interested please mail items to :  HEART -  7311 Grand Oaks Dr. -  Lincoln, NE 68516-4338 - Thank you for your support. Chris Hansen, HEART  tsheartorg@hotmail.com (Chris is involved in a worthy cause - be sure and email him your support for his work)

Jan. 14, 2000 - Donna says...

"You have done a wonderful job on this site!  I can see that you have pored your heart and soul into it.  One thing I especially like about it is that it is so positive and not just full of depressing statistics and incidents, etc.  It is beautiful.  Reading through it caused those mixed feelings to resurface and caused my tears to flow again, even though I never really knew Jared very well.  I just want you to know that I love and admire you and your family for your great strength and love.  Your first Thanksgiving and Christmas without Jared, I would think to myself 'how will they be able to get through the day without Jared there?  How can they just open presents? (etc.)'  You get the idea.  I see that in spite of the pain, you have chosen to celebrate him and include him in your life as best you can, rather than to try to 'get it behind you'. Ya-hoo!"

Jan. 13, 2000 - Brandy says...

"hi my name is brandy and i'm 17 and i have been on your website reading all your wonderful stories. as i sat here and read i have cried. jared seemed like an amazing little boy. some of your stories remind me of my little brother who is 14. my little brother is a very adventurous boy. he loves animals and he likes 'inventing' things. The story of jared and his cowboy boots is probably what hit me the most... Our mother died 4 years ago and my brother is waiting to be adopted by his aunt. he never knew much of our mother but i did. i remember one year my mom actually had money and she took my brother and i out to buy cowboy boots. my brother got his first pair and he was so proud of them. he wore them till they had holes. My mom was never around. i was adopt when i was six and my brother and i were split up before then, but i know my real family. My mom was a homeless drug addict and she always forgot our birthdays and never kept in touch. when she died i remembered all the things about my mom and the cowboy thing stood out. i'm so sorry about your loss. i can honestly say i know how it feels because i was the one who looked out for my mom like she was my child. and it is the worst pain i have ever felt in my hole life. but i thank god everyday for letting me know her. and i wish i could have had the chance to have met your son. because he seemed like a wonderful kid... i'm sorry to tell you my story but just letting you know that i understand your pain." (Thank you, Brandy,  for sharing your story)

Jan. 13, 2000 - Rev. Lenzo says...

"What a beautiful honor you have bestowed upon your loving son. I have counseled people who have lost their children to suicide and have seen the pain and the questions that linger.  Your site is a testimonial of life in Jared's name and also is an beautiful expression of healing.  As with Jesus, through his death, Jared has become a teacher to many. Go with God's blessings and angels."                        Rev. Fran Lenzo

Jan. 7, 2000 - Lil says...

"Dear Jared's Mom & Dad: My heart breaks for your loss.  I don't know how I came about your page here on the internet.  I  cannot begin to imagine your pain.  Jared was a precious child  with I'm sure a bright future.  You must always wonder what was going through his troubled mind.  You and your family will be in my prayers tonight."

Jan. 4, 2000 - Dr. Dunne says...

"Mrs. High, I found your site just terrific.  I am editing the Spring issue of American Associations of Suicidology "Surviving" and would like to include your list of 10 things for survivors to do.  May we get your permission to copy it from the web?  Thanks,  Ed Dunne (President-elect)." (permission given)

Jan. 1, 2000 - Sharon says...

"You really have quite an extensive web site.  You have put allot of work into it.  Good job!

 

 

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