Depression  Suicide  Bullying

Definition: Suicidal Behavior - "Anything that happens to the thinking within the brain, such as injury or bad learning experiences that can interfere with serotonins ability to keep basic instincts in line."  Cardell Smith

Jared Benjamin High was born Sept. 23, 1985 and died Sept. 29, 1998 by "bullycide," a teen suicide caused by bullying."  He was 13 years and 6 days old. This young man's suicide was such a waste of a beautiful and kind boy and a true tragedy for everyone who knew him. As his family has grieved his loss, we have found some solace in getting answers to the "WHY" questions about his suicide and questions in general on the subject of suicide. 

If you are doing some studies on bullying, (teen) depression and suicide, be sure and click on the other links to the left and/or support the advertisers on this page.  By supporting the advertisers on JaredStory.com, you keep this website active on the web.  If you have had thoughts of suicide, be sure and read, "Teenage Suicide - Been There, Done That" and if you are feeling down, be sure and read my favorite story about Jared, "The Skittles War", and try out Jared's favorite (birthday) cake, "Dirt Cake."  It will take you back to the happy moments in your own life and you will forget your own troubles for a time.

This page is here to help others that may have gone through a suicide, or have thoughts of suicide themselves, so that they may get answers to their questions.  If you are suicidal, PLEASE, PLEASE, get help!!!  "Suicide doesn't get rid of your pain, it just passes it on to your loved ones."  (Check out www.jaredstory.com/depression_causes.html for answers to what depression symptoms are and what "Clinical Depression" is.)   Do not do to your loved ones what  Jared did to us. Talk to a family member or a friend about what you are feeling and see a professional counselor or mental health specialist. You are loved and you are of value more than you can ever know!

Jared's death from suicide filled our lives with grief.  The healing has come slowly.  Our family has found hope in understanding Jared's purpose in life and in The Meaning of Life.   (Be sure and read "Commit Suicide, and go where?")  We were left behind with only memories of Jared, mostly good, some bad, but our healing journey goes on, forever.

Lots of love from Brenda (Jared's mom)

HEAR JARED'S VOICE - PLAY - From an interview with Pasco School District investagators concerning the assault.  This is a recording of a recording and it isn't real clear, but worth the download effort.  Jared had a real mellow voice.   Note: If you have a slow load wav, wait for it to load entirely and then play again from the start.   5 minutes long
 

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...just wanted to let you know that a young girl just wrote me and told me that she was ready to end her life, but after finding our stories on your website she decided to live. Her life is very hard but I have hope for her.  She wrote, "I was on your website because I almost did it yesterday.  Almost.  It actually saved me." ...I apprecate you letting me be a part of your website.   Stacy Hone (http://www.jaredstory.com/kasey.html)
 

Information and Support within JaredStory.com SUICIDE: 'BEEN THERE, DONE THAT' Learn how to Deal with Grief and Survive Suicide - Surviving, a lifelong process What do people say about JaredStory.com Laughter is the Best Medicine - If you are down, maybe a little humor will help. Depression - What it is and what it isn't - How do you get through it? What happens to the person who dies by suicide? - Gods Love, Mercy & Judgment

 
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WHEN SOMEONE TAKES HIS OWN LIFE
An excerpt from THE HEALING OF SORROW
by Norman Vincent Peale

In many ways, this seems the most tragic form of death. Certainly it can entail more shock and grief for those who are left behind than another. And often the stigma of suicide is what rests most heavily on those left behind.

Suicide is often judged to be essentially a selfish act. Perhaps it is. But the Bible warns us not to judge, if we ourselves hope to escape judgment. And I believe this is one area where that Biblical command especially should be heeded.

Nor do we know how many valiant battles such a person may have fought and won before he loses that one particular battle. And is it fair that all the good acts and impulses of such a person should be forgotten or blotted out by his final tragic act?

I think our reaction should be one of love and pity, not of condemnation. Perhaps the person was not thinking clearly in his final moments; perhaps he was so driven by emotional whirlwinds that he was incapable of thinking at all.  This is terribly sad... but surely it is understandable.  All of us have moments when we lost control of ourselves, flashes of temper, or irritation, of selfishness that we later regret. Each one of us, probably, has a final breaking point- or would have if our faith did not sustain us.  Life puts more pressure on some of us than it does on others. When I see in the paper, as I do all too often, that dark despair has rolled over some lonely soul, so much so that for him life seemed unendurable, my reaction is not one of condemnation. It is, rather "There but for the grace of God..."

And my heart goes out to those who are left behind, because I known that they suffer terribly. Children in particular are left under a cloud of "differentness," all the more terrifying because it can never be fully explained or lifted. The immediate family of the victim is left wide open to tidal waves of guilt, "What did I fail to do that I should have done? What did I fail to do that I should of done? What did I do that was wrong?"

To such grieving persons I can only say, "Lift up your heads and your hearts, surely you did your best. And surely the loved one who is gone did his best, for as long as he could. Remember, now that his battles and torments are over, do not judge him, and do not presume to fathom the mind of God where one is his children is concerned."