In memory of
Jared High
Depression Suicide Bullying

Definition: Suicidal Behavior - "Anything that happens to the thinking within the brain, such as injury or bad learning experiences that can interfere with serotonins ability to keep basic instincts in line."  Cardell Smith

Jared Benjamin High was born Sept. 23, 1985 and died Sept. 29, 1998 by "bullycide," a teen suicide caused by bullying."  He was 13 years and 6 days old. This young man's suicide was such a waste of a beautiful and kind boy and a true tragedy for everyone who knew him. As his family has grieved his loss, we have found some solace in getting answers to the "WHY" questions about his suicide and questions in general on the subject of suicide. 

If you are doing some studies on bullying, (teen) depression and suicide, be sure and click on the other links to the left and/or support the advertisers on this page.  By supporting the advertisers on, you keep this website active on the web.  If you have had thoughts of suicide, be sure and read, "Teenage Suicide - Been There, Done That" and if you are feeling down, be sure and read my favorite story about Jared, "The Skittles War", and try out Jared's favorite (birthday) cake, "Dirt Cake."  It will take you back to the happy moments in your own life and you will forget your own troubles for a time.

This page is here to help others that may have gone through a suicide, or have thoughts of suicide themselves, so that they may get answers to their questions.  If you are suicidal, PLEASE, PLEASE, get help!!!  "Suicide doesn't get rid of your pain, it just passes it on to your loved ones."  (Check out for answers to what depression symptoms are and what "Clinical Depression" is.)   Do not do to your loved ones what  Jared did to us. Talk to a family member or a friend about what you are feeling and see a professional counselor or mental health specialist. You are loved and you are of value more than you can ever know!

Jared's death from suicide filled our lives with grief.  The healing has come slowly.  Our family has found hope in understanding Jared's purpose in life and in The Meaning of Life.   (Be sure and read "Commit Suicide, and go where?")  We were left behind with only memories of Jared, mostly good, some bad, but our healing journey goes on, forever.

Lots of love from Brenda (Jared's mom)

Watch Jared's Story, Brenda's Story and Jared's Sister's Story featured on the
E! Network, first aired on April 21, 2010 - E! Investigates: Bullying
HEAR JARED'S VOICE - PLAY - From an interview with Pasco School District investagators concerning the assault.  This is a recording of a recording and it isn't real clear, but worth the download effort.  Jared had a real mellow voice.   Note: If you have a slow load wav, wait for it to load entirely and then play again from the start.   5 minutes long
"Life is not measured by the breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away."
    An excerpt from THE HEALING OF SORROW
    by Norman Vincent Peale

    In many ways, this seems the most tragic form of death. Certainly it can entail more shock and grief for those who are left behind than another. And often the stigma of suicide is what rests most heavily on those left behind.

    Suicide is often judged to be essentially a selfish act. Perhaps it is. But the Bible warns us not to judge, if we ourselves hope to escape judgment. And I believe this is one area where that Biblical command especially should be heeded.

    Nor do we know how many valiant battles such a person may have fought and won before he loses that one particular battle. And is it fair that all the good acts and impulses of such a person should be forgotten or blotted out by his final tragic act?

    I think our reaction should be one of love and pity, not of condemnation. Perhaps the person was not thinking clearly in his final moments; perhaps he was so driven by emotional whirlwinds that he was incapable of thinking at all.  This is terribly sad... but surely it is understandable.  All of us have moments when we lost control of ourselves, flashes of temper, or irritation, of selfishness that we later regret. Each one of us, probably, has a final breaking point- or would have if our faith did not sustain us.  Life puts more pressure on some of us than it does on others. When I see in the paper, as I do all too often, that dark despair has rolled over some lonely soul, so much so that for him life seemed unendurable, my reaction is not one of condemnation. It is, rather "There but for the grace of God..."

    And my heart goes out to those who are left behind, because I known that they suffer terribly. Children in particular are left under a cloud of "differentness," all the more terrifying because it can never be fully explained or lifted. The immediate family of the victim is left wide open to tidal waves of guilt, "What did I fail to do that I should have done? What did I fail to do that I should of done? What did I do that was wrong?"

    To such grieving persons I can only say, "Lift up your heads and your hearts, surely you did your best. And surely the loved one who is gone did his best, for as long as he could. Remember, now that his battles and torments are over, do not judge him, and do not presume to fathom the mind of God where one is his children is concerned."

Keep the BALANCE in your life!


Map Page

Jared's Life

Friends & Family

About Bullying

Bullying Stories

Bully Police USA

About Bullycide

About Depression

Dealing With Grief

'Been There, Done That'

The Lawsuit

Laughter is Healing

Vip Links


About Suicide




The Meaning of Life

My gift to you


About Jared's Mom

Brenda's Web Page

Contacting Brenda


Brenda - On the Radio with Joyce Bender, October 2010
2010 Interview

2008 Interview


Brenda's Websites:

Be Kind to One Another - A bracelet reminder

Moms Speak Out!
Order on Amazon

Bullycide in America

Bully Police USA

"Time does not really heal a broken heart, it only teaches a person how to live with it."